18November 2018

Dodging Holiday Depression

November 18th, 2018|

The holidays can be difficult and depressing. Shorter days, gloomy weather, family chaos with everyone at home, and changes in schedules can intensify our challenges of caring for a family member with exceptional needs. The complaint I hear the most is, “Christmas and all its traditions no longer bring me joy. It’s just extra work and stress – financial and emotional. They just remind me how much our lives have been changed by this disability, how different we are from other families.”

Galatians 1:10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I […]

22October 2018

You Are My Witnesses

October 22nd, 2018|

A sweet friend that I met during caregiver small groups gave me permission to share it this you. Her mother has Alzheimer’s and is quickly declining, and my friend had been struggling with feelings of impatience and inadequacy. She confessed she’d had a “sit down” with God asking if He was sure He picked the right person for this very difficult job?


Then yesterday her daughter posted this “Heroes Around Us” contest entry from her granddaughter. “My Granny loves me so much and helps protect me too.” Wow!


God’s Word tells us that how we love one another is the way others […]

13September 2018

Do Not Fear The Beast

September 13th, 2018|

My daughter’s seizures dramatically escalate with every big storm. Hurricane Florence’s scope is so big, there is nowhere within a 5-hour radius we can drive to get her out of the pressure. We resigned to just stay in Charleston and be near our familiar docs and hospital. Watching her seize with increased frequency and intensity had me feeling so hopeless, as we will be trapped by this storm for a while.


Then I read this scripture this morning.


Daniel 6:22 My God sent his angel, and he shut the mouths of the lions. They have not hurt me, because I was found […]

5September 2018

Clearing Old Data

September 5th, 2018|

My website was recently hacked and infected with a terrible virus. My webmaster and hosting service eventually got everything cleaned up and back online, but when I typed in the address, I kept getting the same error message. It was so frustrating – they could see the new and improved, cleaned up site, but I couldn’t.
My webmaster realized I had not enabled automatic updates on the back-end of my website because it was just so much easier for me not to have to learn newer and better ways to do things. He also told me to do an advanced clean-up on […]

22July 2018

Powerful Good from Terribly Bad

July 22nd, 2018|

I was reading the book of Ruth in the Bible the other day. It really touched something deep in me I want to share.

My mother died very young, before I had children. It seemed so premature and unfair, but like this story of Ruth, I have come to realize it wasn’t the terribly bad thing that it appeared to be.

Here is a brief recap of the story. Naomi is a married woman with two sons.  A famine hits her town (Bethlehem) and her husband moves her and her sons to a new place (Moab). When they get to the new […]

1June 2018

Life in Prison

June 1st, 2018|

When we realized that no surgery, no med, no therapy was going to fix Mary Addison – that this was our new normal – I felt like we’d been given a sentence of life in prison. To accommodate her daily seizures and her mental and physical challenges, everything about our lifestyle would have to change and all our plans were scrapped. It was back to the drawing board to design a new life within our prison walls.

The monotony, the lack of progress, the daily routine and the isolation nearly drove me insane. Those images of chained prisoners shuffling around in […]

11February 2018

Life Changing Journey

February 11th, 2018|

You become a better caregiver when you realize what a gift you have been given to find out who you really are and what you are capable of — your power to love, the deep satisfaction that comes from humble service, the exquisiteness of fragility, and our marvelous connection with the Divine.

It’s not about the disease or disability. It about a life changing journey – like scaling the sheer face of a mountain with a helpless person strapped to your back. People below are watching and commenting but no one is helping. Your hands are raw on the rope. Your […]

8January 2018

Who Told You That You Were Naked?

January 8th, 2018|

Each January, millions of us make resolutions. We examine ourselves and our lives and decide what needs to be improved. The idea is that a resolution is an optimistic way to approach each new year, but in reality, it’s the perfect set-up for failure.

Studies have shown that fewer than 20 percent of New Year’s resolutions are followed through, and then for only a limited time. Why? Because rarely do resolutions really get to the root of dissatisfaction – self-judgement and loathing.

This year, as I sat down to draw up the list of things about myself that need to change, God […]

7November 2017

Peace with Time

November 7th, 2017|

It sounds crazy, but early in life I learned that Time was my enemy – cramming school, homework, and activities into every second of the day. In college, I began to wage war on what I feared Time would eventually do to my body – diets, potions, gyms and a race to find a mate – all before Time turned me into a hag. Professionally, I learned to live by time sheets, billable hours, productivity charts as I frantically tried to beat competitors to the top of the career heap.

I thrived on being busy. If I was busy, that meant […]

24October 2017

Do You Have Compassion Fatigue?

October 24th, 2017|

“Compassion fatigue” is usually referred to when talking about nurses, doctors, soldiers or professionals who help others who are suffering, but it’s also very real among friends and family caring for someone with exceptional needs or who is suffering.
Even though compassion fatigue is common, it can be difficult for those who suffer from it to accept that it’s happening to them because empathetic and giving people may find it hard to admit that their needs are important too.  The realization there is a limit to compassion (even if that limit is shared by all other people) can induce guilt and […]